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Compatibility
Am I right for you
This page isn’t here to persuade you.
It’s here to help you decide, honestly, whether this way of working fits what you’re looking for right now.
Not whether you’re “ready for therapy.”
Not whether you’re a good person.
Simply, whether the orientation of this work matches where you are.
What this work assumes
This approach is built on a few quiet assumptions.
They’re not beliefs you need to agree with, but they are the ground the work stands on.
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That understanding matters more than reassurance
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That clarity is often uncomfortable before it is relieving
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That patterns make sense once they’re seen clearly
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That responsibility is empowering, not punitive
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That no one else can live your life or make your decisions for you
If those ideas feel hostile, this may not be the right fit.
If they feel steady, familiar, or quietly relieving, you’re likely in the right place.
How change is approached here
Change isn’t treated as something to be forced or manufactured.
It’s treated as something that happens when:
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Confusion reduces
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Resistance is understood rather than fought
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Choices become clearer
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Self-deception loses its grip
This means the work often involves:
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slowing down before moving forward
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questioning assumptions you didn’t realise you were making
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seeing your own position more clearly, not just the other person’s
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tolerating moments of uncertainty without rushing to closure
If you’re looking for quick reassurance or simple answers, this may feel frustrating.
If you’re interested in understanding why things keep happening, it usually feels clarifying.
What this work asks of you
This approach doesn’t require you to be articulate, confident, or emotionally skilled.
It does ask that you are willing to:
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Look at yourself honestly
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Stay present when things feel uncomfortable
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Take responsibility for what is yours to change
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and accept that clarity doesn’t always flatter the ego
You don’t need to get everything right.
You do need to be willing to see what’s there.
What this work does not do
This is not a space where:
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Someone agrees with you to keep things calm
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Blame is quietly reinforced
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Difficult truths are avoided for the sake of comfort
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Therapy becomes a place to offload responsibility
That doesn’t make those approaches wrong.
It simply makes them different.
Starting point
All work begins with a 20-minute free introductory call
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