This book instantly became one of my must read books and has a huge amount to offer anyone wishing to understand their relationships. It explains very well the idea that there are 3 ways we approach love and these are based on how we formed our early relationships with caregivers and our first partners. The book covers how to identify your type as well as your partner or potential partner's type. How to best behave with them and also how to move to a more secure way of being with them. It will help you see pitfalls you may encounter and how best to deal with them.
The 3 ways we behave in relationships:
ANXIOUS, people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. This would be believing that your partner wanted to leave you and anything they do threatens your connection to them.
AVOIDANT, people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. This would be when you start a fight in order to avoid a nice evening with your partner or you never have time for them maybe due to work.
SECURE, people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. This is when you are comfortable within yourself and you have trust in your partner to provide you with what you need from them.
The book promises that we can use science to help us understand love and the way we approach love however I feel this book fits better if read with other books that I recommend such as "The 5 Love Languages" and "Emotional Intelligence" as the way we approach love is deeply based on the beliefs we hold about ourselves and others.
This book can be found on Ebay, Amazon, it is in audio on Audible and you can even get it free from your local library.
Enjoy reading or listening and the benefits you gain.