Counselling Service

Welcome to my counselling service page, here you can learn what counselling is, how it works and how it can help you. You can learn about me and my role and the purpose and goal of counselling.

What is counselling

Counselling is a talking therapy designed to help people who are suffering from negative or unwanted thoughts, feelings or beliefs that they are having. These may come from anywhere such as childhood, work, personal life or imagination. The goal of counselling is to create a safe and trusting place for the client to express their thoughts and feelings in a way that is supportive in order to help the client find a resolution that is best for them.  It is much more involved than a chat with a friend or family member as it focuses on the client and what they are thinking and feeling and has a clear set of rules and boundaries to help the client feel and be safe such as confidentiality and a trained therapist who is there is help the client rather than pass any judgements or opinions. It can feel painful and challenging at times as the issues raised often have an element of discomfort, for example, talking about a painful childhood.​

Who is it for

Counselling is for anyone who wants to change how they act, think or feel into a more positive way. It is for those who want to find a better way to live their  life free of unwanted thoughts or feelings, it is for anyone regardless of age, gender, race or any other label you wish to use, it is for anyone who believes or hopes to find change and growth or those who are needing to change as  old ways of acting, thinking and feeling no longer serve them. Counselling is most helpful for those who are wanting to change but are struggling with the issue or feeling overwhelmed and wish to have an extra pair of eyes, a new perspective or simply the extra support while they need it.

Reasons to come for counselling

You should consider counselling if you wish to talk about anything that you consider painful or upsetting. Almost any issue can be helpful to explore in counselling, this could be pain from childhood, guilt for something you have done, fear from things you perceive in the world, work-related stress, relationship issues be that as an individual or as a couple. It can be about a fear you have such as flying, it may be about how unhappy you are in your personal/social life or maybe an addiction or loss. These are endless reasons to come for counselling and these are just a starting point.

 

The following topics can be clicked on to learn a lot more about each topic (coming soon)

  • Relationship Issues - adultery/cheating - brake up - disagreements - sex issues - 

  • Anxiety / Stress

  • Additions - drinking - smoking - drugs - porn - gambling - sex - 

  • Body image

  • Illness / Sickness

  • Work-related stress

  • Depression

  • Eating and food issues

  • Holding onto past/fear of change and moving forwards

  • Phobias, loneliness - insects - flying - outside/enclosed spaces - people

  • Assault / Abuse / Trauma

  • Sexuality

  • Self half

  • Suicide

  • Self-worth / Worthlessness

  • Bereavement and lose

  • Issues in relationships

These are only the tip of the iceberg and counselling can help with a large number of issues

What to expect and how it works

This is a short break down of the main things to expect when coming for counselling

  • After deciding that you want help the next step is booking your first session, you can do this using my online booking system or you can contact me to arrange it. You can pay for the first session online at the time of booking or in cash on your first session.

  • There is nothing that you need to bring to your session, just come along at the agreed time. (some feel it is helpful to bring such things as notes or writing or a writing pad, this is up to each person and will not change the way we work)

  • The first thing I do with all clients when they arrive is welcome them into my therapy room and offer and make a drink.

  • We then spend the time talking about your issue in-depth, more on this part later.

  • Towards the end of your time, a small sound will indicate that the time is almost up, at this point we finish off anything we are currently talking about as there is no time to open up new topics.

  • Unless it's your last session we discuss your next session booking and say our farewells for the week.

 

Counselling is an individual thing and each person has a slightly different way of working, talking, trusting, opening up, processing, etc. This means that the way we talk is up to you, I do not tell you how you should talk or the things you should talk about or the way you should do it. The space is yours to look at and talk about what is bothering you.

 

As a general rule we talk about and focus on the issue you came to get help with, we often focus on how the issue is affecting you now. It is sometimes painful, stressful or fearful as you are working on wounds that hold you back and there is often a fear of appearing silly or weak and fear that you will not be able to change, this is not the case as I and everyone else also feels the same with their issues, this is why it takes an element of courage to open up and talk and it is expected that it will be a little difficult however as you start to talk and relax these fears soon pass.

 

The first session is very often considerably less stressful than people expect or fear as it is the expectation of it that is fearful. Once in the room, almost everyone sees it is relaxed, calm and they see the understanding and desire to help in my eyes.

 

How it changes

Over a few sessions of talking and opening up about your issues you will start to feel better as you offload and feel heard and as the feelings that are buried come to the suffice and you start to evaluate yourself and start finding ways that can help you feel better and as part of the work you naturally start to shift and change as the new insights and awareness come from our work. It's through talking and exploring that you find a way to feel better about your issue, it's just a question of taking the risk and trusting that you can find a better way.

My Role

My role is to help support you as you express your issues, I am here to help you understand and make sense of your life. I am here to help you feel relaxed, safe and free to be the full you without fear of judgment or opinion, I am here to reflect back to you things I see, hear, think and feel as we talk. It may be that I do this by pointing out discrepancies; for example, if you said something like “I don't care about him” but you looked down at your feet when you said it. Or maybe if I notice a pattern of thoughts from you that all lead to the idea or belief that you are not enough or unworthy. My role is to listen to you as fully as I can and to give you more than just a chat with a friend or family member. I am impartial and don't have my own agenda when talking meaning you are free to allow your thoughts and feelings to flow where they want to. Am here to help you move from where you are to where you want to be by creating the right place/space for you to change or grow in the way you wish to, to help empower you and help you heal, move on or adapt. I am here to show you a more fully formed picture of yourself and nurture a positive view of yourself and your options.   

What is the goal or outcome

Only you as the client can set the end goal or decide the place you wish to be as only you know what will make you happy. The goal or outcome is your own in counselling and a goal set by anyone else like a boss, a parent or lover or even a counsellor will not be true to you. The goal or outcome of counselling differs for each person who comes for counselling as each individual has different issues and has a different point that they would like to reach before they felt happy. An example could be someone feeling trapped in their career. A goal could be to get to a place of being able to get up and work each day without feeling sad and for someone else, they would not feel anything less than a change in career a success.

Reserve your session now and start feeling better 

Please use this booking option for individuals or couples sessions. you are paying for an hour and a half of time.
Book your 1.5 Hour counselling session
1 hr 30 min
£40